Tuesday, 9 June 2015
Everyone who has watched the Sulkowicz sex tape is a rapist.
The Emma Sulkowicz 'sex tape' is out and it is supposed to be "consensual but may resemble rape", according to Sulkowicz. She writes, "You might be wondering why I've made myself this vulnerable. Look—I want to change the world, and that begins with you, seeing yourself. If you watch this video without my consent, then I hope you reflect on your reasons for objectifying me and participating in my rape, for, in that case, you were the one who couldn't resist the urge to make Ceci N'est Pas Un Viol about what you wanted to make it about: rape."
Porn star Mercedes Carrera described it as “a bad amateur sex tape from an attention-seeking histrionic." But what was the ultimate goal for Sulkowicz by making this tape? A conversation about rape? Many think it was, but those who think that was Sulkowicz's main point are in fact dead wrong. All you have to do is pay close attention to what Sulkowicz wrote on the website hosting her sex video, and you can see her motives are a lot more sinister and calculated than attempting to start a "conversation" about rape.
The tape is indeed a horribly made piece of film, but the important part is not the video or sex itself, but rather what she says about it on the website. Sulkowicz states that the tape "is not a reenactment [of rape] but may seem like one." Ok, fine, then this amateur porn flick is not intended to be a re-enactment of rape. End of story right? Well, it would be if she hadn't stated that; "If you watch this video without my consent, then I hope you reflect on your reasons for objectifying me and participating in my rape, for, in that case, you were the one who couldn't resist the urge to make Ceci N'est Pas Un Viol about what you wanted to make it about: rape.
Nicely played Emma Sulkowicz. I see what you did there - you have made the video a way for all the viewers watching it become your "rapists". The guy in the video is not supposed to be the "rapist" - the viewers are - except of course, those who "Do not watch this video if your motives would upset me, my desires are unclear to you, or my nuances are indecipherable." - in other words, those who possess the Secret Feminist Decoder Ring™. It's evident even in the comments section, despite the fact that you go out of your way to carefully word the supposedly innocuous statements, you quietly conflate your alleged rape in college, with a badly made sex tape, and people buy into it lock, stock and barrel:
Many people reporting on the tape have missed this immensely important point, but it was not lost on me when I first read what she had written on the site. I clearly see what her intentions were by doing what she did, and I have to give her props for the way she carefully constructed her words to make anyone who watches the tape think that she is attempting to start a conversation about rape when she really isn't. Her ultimate goal is to get viewers to watch it without her "consent", thus, in her view, becoming a participant in her "rape". She admits as much when she tells us that "Everything that takes place in the following video is consensual but may resemble rape... Please, don't participate in my rape."
In an honest, intellectually responsible, non-fear and hate mongering way, if Sulkowicz's intention was to stimulate a conversation about rape, she should not have carried around a mattress for months on end. Instead, Sulkowicz should have said the following: '"Everything that takes place in the following video is consensual but may resemble rape... Please, don't participate in my simulated rape fantasy - which I wish to use as a starting point for a discussion about actual rapes - which I have not experienced.'
Instead she sneaks in this little bit:
So, I guess you can now call me a "rapist" for having watched it without your "permission" or "consent" Emma Sulkowicz - bravo.
The whole point of her video was not to show a re-enactment of rape - it was to be "raped" by the viewers of the video. She wants to be seen as a victim of society as a whole, not of one person "raping" her in a re-enactment. In her twisted mind she is now being "raped" by every single viewer of that video. She is doing the equivalent of waving a red flag in front of a bull and then telling the bull that charging at the red flag means she is entitled to stab it repeatedly regardless of her being the one who enticed the bull to charge. She has put out a video that she knew would entice people to watch it, and then after watching it, she can label them as "rapists". It's brilliant really - make a sex tape, and then claim to be a victim of mass "rape" by all who "decided" to watch it, as she specifically says "it's about your decisions, starting now." Oh Emma, you sneaky little thing you!
Emma Sulkowicz is the epitome of a professional victim. She can turn anything into a way for her to be victimized and for everyone else to be vilified. If anything, the most important message here is for everyone to stay as far away from her as humanly possible. Make no mistake, she is a smart and cunning predator who wants desperately to be seen as a victim in any and all situations. She is pathological and will stop at nothing to be seen, in her eyes, as a victim, as is evidenced by this latest stunt.
Her end goal, for those who may be unclear as to why she would do all this, is pretty simple really. Of course it's obvious she wants more attention, but what she really wants is to have willing participants in her "rape" - a rape solely defined by her if you watch it without her "consent", and thus prove that there is indeed rampant "rape-culture". Her whole sex video is a giant shit-test - a "gotcha" moment.
She is likely (though this is mere speculation on my part) going to parlay this into a few on camera interviews, write a book about her astro-turfed "rape culture" experience, and hit the feminist talking circuit, carting along a mattress, a box of her books, signed and autographed to make them more "valuable", and retire for the rest of her life, content to produce a work of "vaginal art" now and again to refresh her coffers.
All the people, manospherian or otherwise, so enticed by the idea of a public figure "sex tape" are making it even more likely that she will never have to be an actual contributing member of society. The next Paris Hilton - famous just for being famous. You are demonstrating her idea of "rape culture" exists by the mere expedient of watching the video - even though nothing could be further from the truth, of course.
I wouldn't want to be in the same room as Sulkowicz, ever. She is a very scary woman who knows no limits when it comes to getting what she wants, and she doesn't care who she has to vilify or destroy in the process. If you see her coming, run the other way as fast as you can and don't stop. This woman is as toxic as they come.
Edited to add the following quotes from the Columbia Spectator:
The video was directed by Ted Lawson, a contemporary artist known for a selfie he created out of his own blood, while the actor in the video was found on a fetish website, Lawson said.
The original version of the video included “08/27/2012”—the date of her alleged assault—alongside the time, the version posted on Monday had this date blurred out instead.
“Emma insisted on it being completely real. Everything had to be actually performed,” he said. “That’s what makes it a performance art piece. You have to get it in one take and there is no trickery.”
While Sulkowicz conceived of the idea and had control over the video’s aesthetics and production, Lawson directed the video and advised her on how to find an actor safely, he said.
Written by Kristina Hansen
Edited by Joel Mendez
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