There is a saying in the MRM, and among MGTOWs, that being a 'utility' is equal to slavery, which is an absolutely ridiculous claim to make. The fact is that everyone is a 'utility', both men and women. Take away one's 'utility' and you take away one's identity and worth as a human being.
Everything you are, say, or do is a 'utility'. These are our roles as human beings in life. Without roles/utilities we are useless beings with nothing of value to contribute to society. And this is why I suspect many men are beginning to feel really lost. They are attempting to remove their utility/roles because they have been told that their being a 'utility' is bad for them and it makes them slaves to others. But in reality, doing things for others is the whole point of being a human being.
With that said, I want to invite you to make a list of the things that you see yourself as. It's a little exercise we did back in the first semester of my social work classes and I thought it would be fun to explore it here. It gives one a sense of who they are and their roles in life. It provides people with a sense of self and worth.
As an example, my list would be something like this:
I am a:
Repairer of broken toys
And so-on. But I do not want you to make such an extensive list if you do not have the time. Just list the top 10 things you see yourself as. List things that are the most important to you.
Edited for spelling errors.